A powerful collection of quotations by writers, leaders, and legends on the pain of losing a pet and overcoming grief.
An animal’s love is deep, uncomplicated, unconditional, and forgiving. “Affection without ambivalence” is how Sigmund Freud described the connection. “No matter how awful the day, or how awful I am behaving at any given moment, George doesn’t care,” writes journalist John Dickerson. “He finds me smoldering in my chair and dashes to my lap.” Our lives are intricately intertwined with our pets, and together, over time, we establish rituals that are as steady as a metronome. It’s no wonder the grief is crushing when they depart—even those who’ve had time to prepare describe feeling stunned, devastated, and cracked in two.
“We were a bit broken up over the death of our black Persian cat,” crime novelist Raymond Chandler confessed. “When I say a bit broken up, I am being conventional. For us it was a tragedy.” Nobel Prize–winning author V. S. Naipaul described the experience as “calamitous,” and writer May Sarton called it a “volcanic eruption of woe.” Poet Emily Dickinson was so bereft she asked for help: “Carlo died,” she announced in a letter to her friend Thomas Wentworth Higginson in 1866. “Would you instruct me now?”
The Book of Pet Love and Loss is a collection of quotations—poignant thoughts and memories discovered in letters, journals, diaries, memoirs, and other original sources—from beloved cultural figures who understood this singular experience so deeply, they felt compelled to write about it. This book dignifies the profound connection we share with our animal companions, but it also provides solace as mourners document their heartache over the loss of their cats, dogs, rabbits, birds, and other animals—even, in the case of Pablo Neruda, a mongoose. Their comforting and wise words are what every animal lover needs on this journey of heartbreak and healing.
About the Author
Sara Bader is an editor, writer, and researcher. She has worked as an acquisitions editor for Princeton Architectural Press and senior editor for Phaidon. In addition to editing visual culture books, she has conceived and researched quotation collections for both publishers, including The Designer Says, Art Is the Highest Form of Hope, and Every Day a Word Surprises Me, among others. In 2010, she launched Quotenik.com, a growing library of verified quotations.
"The Book of Pet Love and Loss is a true tonic for an ailment which is as undefinable to the world at large as its symptoms are singularly painful. Let this book be a gift to you or anyone you know who is suffering the loss of an animal family member and, through voices across time as varied as Patti Smith and Sigmund Freud, they will learn in short order that while there is no cure for grief, there is great comfort in kinship." — Jackson Galaxy, cat behaviorist and wellness expert, New York Times bestselling author, and longtime host of My Cat From Hell
“The happiest of reads about love, mirrored between species. This is a unique gift, a treasure, as it awakens joyous memories of every companion we have loved and never truly lost.” —Jennifer Skiff, author of The Divinity of Dogs, God Stories, and Rescuing Ladybugs
"Some pains demand anticipation. Luckily, pet owners now have a whole book to prepare and brace us: The Book of Pet Love & Loss... [is] a gorgeous volume intended to both celebrate our love of companion animals and bring solace when bereavement comes.” — Neil Steinberg, The Chicago Sun-Times
“Sara has created a masterpiece with historic photos, stories, quotes, and numerous individuals from diverse backgrounds participating. I am absolutely in love with it!” – Cheryl Wyatt, Pet Loss Advisor and Certified Grief Coach, Lap of Love Veterinary Hospice