This workbook is a companion piece to the author's forthcoming book HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED, pub date 12/04. It is created to be used along with the book and also in the author's workshops on how women can make good relationship choices, although it can also be used by itself. Women who date dangerous men fall into many categories, from the teenager to the divorcee, from the waitress to the professional woman. They often move from one category of dangerous man to another, from the violent to the unavailable, from there to the clinger. They need to figure out how to break this pattern, and this workbook serves that purpose. This workbook is a realistic and effective tool for women to break the dangerous man pattern, and contains 22 worksheets/quizzes to lead women to the place where they can effectively create their personal DO NOT DATE list of red flags. See table of contents for specifics.
"There simply are not enough wonderful things I can tell you about Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved. Statistically almost 100% of the ladies coming through our shelter were returning to their abuser or getting involved in another dangerous relationship a year ago. Our program was based on the Power and Control Wheel” at that time.
Concern for our clients and their children lead our organization to look closely at what was lacking within our program. We quickly discovered that the majority of the clients we service knew and understood the Power and Control Wheel” but lacked the knowledge of how to apply it to their lives. Jointly we began to restructure our program around the pattern changing ideals in Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved.
Participation in my group therapy has soared from one or two people I had to drag to group to nearly every resident in house at our eight room shelter. The majority of our clients will plan their activities around these groups as not to miss one. I often receive requests from our clients to begin my groups at an outside location so that they can continue to attend and learn. Our staff could not be more pleased by the results of the changes we have made to our program as not 85 to 90% of our clients are breaking the cycle and not going back to or getting involved in new abusive relationships. The clients that are returning to their abuser or getting into another dangerous relationship are the ones that do not attend our groups.
Our staff and clients that got to meet with and hear Sandra L. Brown speak could not have been more thankful and excited. Her work has done wonders in the lives of our clients and their children. We look forward to a day when we can say that 100% of our clients are making better life choices."
Renee L. Rose, Domestic Violence Advocate, Salvation Army Domestic Violence Program